When we were kids, they taught us "use your words." Maybe they shouldn't have? In my experience, using my words to express what I'm thinking and how I'm feeling has only caused trouble. For example, my parents: I told my mom once that I never wanted to be like her when I grew up because she was too sad, because she "missed home" so much, because she was never happy. She cried. My first crush: no words, and we had a good summer. My second crush: used the words, got rejected, we don't talk anymore. My first boyfriend: Well, using words with him may have worked, but we'll never know. All the words I use with him now only serve to hurt. My second boyfriend: me using words with him got me a lot of verbal and emotional abuse.
And my husband: well....if I keep my mouth shut, we get along great. I start talking, and suddenly we don't get along anymore.
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